What is emotionally focused therapy?

EFT stands for Emotionally Focused Therapy. It is a scientifically proven method based on attachment theory and our human needs in intimate relationships. Unintentionally, we can fall into negative patterns with our partner, and that can have a lot of impact. We can get stuck in recurring arguments, silent war, or just become distant from each other. Through EFT, you learn to know and change the negative patterns in your relationship. So that you can be stronger and more secure with each other.

What can you expect?

EFT is like a journey of discovery where you get to know each other (and often yourself) better. You learn to see what influence you have on each other and what your behavior triggers in your partner. You learn to understand why you do what you do. After all, our behavior is driven by emotions. EFT helps to get to know that deeper layer and to learn what you actually need at moments when you are touched by your partner. This is where you learn to talk about it together. Because if you can let it be known that you are afraid e.g. that you are not important, instead of getting angry or withdrawing, then the other person can understand you better and respond to you better. With EFT, you learn to create a solid foundation from which you can move forward together. One of our therapists guides this process of change at a pace that suits you. Short if possible and long if necessary. EFT couples therapy has three phases: the de-escalation phase, the change phase and the perpetuation phase.