family therapy

Family lasts a lifetime


Are you entering a new family phase together? Do you want to work with your family to improve mutual contact ? Do you want to understand your growing child more ? Or are you interested in a short relationship training ? We offer maintenance , deepening and restoring connections for all forms of relationships .

Relationship practices are regularly asked by municipalities to guide families through Emotionally Focused Family Therapy. Sometimes in combination with trauma treatment. The experiences are so positive that we are more often found by authorities. You can request information about this. We are happy to tell you about it! You can also request a price offer if you contact us on behalf of a municipality.

WHAT can you expect?

Attachment-oriented family therapy is a process that can look different in every family. You are usually accompanied by two therapists. There are conversations with the whole family and separate conversations with the parents and conversations with the children alone. You learn to see what influence you have on each other and what patterns have arisen in the family. It is often a relief for families to find that what is happening actually makes a lot of sense; that they are stuck in a negative pattern of mutual influence. Step by step you learn to respond in different ways and to be the parents your children need. This creates a better bond between parents and children and more peace and safety in the family. As parents you learn to provide a safe base for the children and how to be there for them when needed. Sometimes it turns out that one of the family members needs an additional process to achieve the common goals. If so, we’ll add that.

Phase 1: the de-escalation phase

In this phase you learn to understand what the negative interaction pattern in your family looks like. You get to know your own role and how you influence each other. Attention is also paid to the impact that the family pattern has on the relationship of the parents. That is why in this phase there are often conversations with only the parents.

Phase 2: the phase of change

During this phase you learn to be there for the children in a way that they dare to become more open and dare to share with you what is happening deep inside them and what they need from you. This is a special and often emotional phase, which is the beginning of a positive spiral of connection. Sometimes parents have to work out their own or mutual themes before they can be there for their child in this new way. In that case, we add some therapy for the relationship or parent in question. There is more connection, safety and peace in the family.

Phase 3: the consolidation phase

The emphasis in this phase is on maintaining and further developing the new way of responding. You are so far that there is more and more mutual trust. The base becomes firmer. And if you fall back into the old pattern, then a step is taken back to phase one and two. You as a family can recover faster from difficult moments and there is more and more room for relaxation and the normal things that belong to the developmental phase of the children. The frequency of the appointments will be reduced until you have enough confidence to continue on your own.


The family we grow up in has such a big impact on how we develop as children. How we look at ourselves and the world. Whether we dare to step into the world with confidence, dare to show ourselves and trust that someone is there when we need it. Or that we have learned to fight for attention, because otherwise you will not be seen. Or that you’ve learned to be quiet. That you are on your own, it makes no sense to reach out to others, you feel that you are not important. These are just some examples.
Family life is complex. We can be deeply moved by our children and then our emotions can get in the way of parenthood. Fortunately, there are ways to improve the quality of family relationships: EFFT. We would like everyone to be able to use it.


What clients say

“We’ve had therapy with our family before, but this is the first thing that has really worked.”

“We ended up at Relatiepraktijken via the municipality. What a nice meeting that was for our family. We sincerely wish we had been guided by them much earlier. Then we would have been spared a lot of grief and unpleasant experiences.”

“I contacted Relationship Practices because as a mother I had the feeling that I no longer had any insight into the ups and downs of my adolescent children. The conversations that my husband, the boys and I had with them were so enlightening. Normalizing. I realize that what I experienced is something that comes with the phase we are in as a family On the other hand, we learned to speak out to each other in a way that really brought us closer together as a family. Don’t worry, because I know that if they really need us, they’ll come.”